Love Always??

What is the line between love and obsession? Someone asked me this the other day, and I honestly had no real answer. I know a young lady who feels herself to be in love with someone who doesn't even like her. Sadly enough...this young lady is me. And I adore him. He is a wonderful person who feeds my mind and my eyes.....and we are just friends. Its a hard thing to let go of the idea of someone like him. This may sound like a simple problem... but there are some factors to keep in mind. Im a black, educated woman in college with substantial spirituality. And settling is not an option. In this world of the diverse and adverse, I find myself strongly attracted to my Black brothers. But where are they? Many are lingering behind socially, educationally, and definitely spiritually. The dating pool becomes a puddle as senior year of college lingers nearby.
So where do I go for love? Excuse me if im just not a down, homegirl who can settle for "Pookie" down the street, whose life amibitions are to make it through the workweek. Don't get me wrong, he serves his purpose, but my intellectual accomplishments deserve, I'd say, someone with more intellectual ambitions. I dont want Martin Luther King Jr, per se, because im cetainly not Coretta, but it would be nice to meet someone I can hold a conversation with on something other than sex. And pointless conversations about Obama days before the election do not count.
Snobby? Bourgeois? Uppity? I think not.
but what happened to having....standards?